With rare exception, when people enter into a new relationship they make every effort to put their best selves forward. They are nicer, more thoughtful, more romantic, more understanding, and more supportive. This is commonly referred to as the “honeymoon” period. It is often the most exciting part of the relationship and is filled with …
We all know not to let toddlers stick their fingers into electrical outlets. You may have also discovered that it’s easier to distract the toddler with a new location, friend, or toy, than it is to sit between the outlet and the toddler and keep telling them “No”. Some may call the technique “distraction”, but …
This is the 4th and final blog in a series dedicated to helping parents help their children become more resilient. The 7 “C” are practical skills that parents can help instill in their children to be able to bounce back from stressors that life will inevitable hand them. The 1st blog that gives an overview …
Counseling costs money, and takes time. For many it requires a baby sitter. It can be difficult to take on the commitment of counseling. A common question asked is, “How long will counseling take?” My answer to that is, “Depends.” It depends on how hard you work. We are together 50-80 minutes a week. The rest …
I have a “monkey brain” when it comes to knowing what helps me feel loved or how to express to my partner how they can help me feel loved. All day long, my thoughts swing around like monkeys in a rainforest. I can just see them swing from one topic to another, screeching out loud, …
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With the barrage of advertising and social media we see everyday, its no wonder that many of us struggle with self-image. The expectation for perfection is abundant and can have a strong affect on the way we see ourselves. This becomes a problem because feeling badly about how we look can have an impact on …
Many of us struggle with change, or rather we struggle with what we consider to be a bad change. I have yet to hear of someone (at the time) becoming upset because they won the lottery; yet, some changes are so unnerving they can leave us with physical symptoms such as loss of sleep or appetite, anxiety, …
As a child, when I thought about the “perfect marriage” I often pictured fairy tale princesses, such as Cinderella or Sleeping Beauty, finding their prince charming and living “happily ever after”. Unfortunately, fairy tales don’t tell us anything about what “happily ever after” looks like. We never see HOW the couples lived “happily ever after” …
Even in religiously conservative states like Utah, pornography has become a widespread problem. Many couples in Utah seek the help of marriage counseling in part because of the impact pornography has had on their relationship. While some may try to deny that viewing pornography has any effect on their brain or relationship quality, research has …
Let’s face it, if you are going to live with someone, chances are good that at least an argument or two are going to happen, no matter what your grandparents tell you about “never going to be angry.” The healthier question may not be “if” we are going to fight, but “how?” So what can …
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